Personal Development

The Monkey Trap


I’ll admit that for most of my life, my hands have been stuck in a monkey trap.

What’s the concept of the “monkey trap”?

As it says in this Guardian article, “The monkey is trapped not by anything physical, but by an idea, unable to see that a principle that served him well has become lethal”.

You can also take a look at this article and this video for a short explanation as well as its related concepts out there.

It took me a long time to realize that I had both hands in the monkey trap and when I finally did wake up, I knew that I had to do something about it. But every time I would attempt to pull both hands out, I would always find myself voluntarily sliding them right back in again.

Uneasiness, self-sabotage, keeping myself small, not wanting to make waves, always being of service to others all form parts of my monkey trap.

My sweaty hands balled up into tight fists was much more comfortable than simply taking a good look around, quietly sliding my hands out, wiping them off and getting to work on getting unstuck, once and for all.

But the older I get, the more I understand that I have to get myself unstuck and start “doing me” “for me”, regardless of what anyone else thinks and feels about it. It’s very true that people oftentimes don’t want you to get unstuck because it may no longer serve them well.

As people say, growth requires discomfort and it’s time to get over that block and get uncomfortable because I am worth it and so are you. It’s time to open a fist and slide one hand out.

I’m ready to do this. Are you? What’s in your monkey trap?

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